Are you constantly exhausted but can’t pinpoint why? You’re not alone. Many Black women navigate multiple demanding roles—professional careers, family responsibilities, and community obligations—while society expects them to maintain superhuman strength and resilience.
Wellness advocate Amanda Miller Littlejohn explains in a recent Be Well, Sis podcast episode with Dr. Cassandre Dunbar that these crushing expectations create a perfect storm for burnout. The persistent pressure to embody the “strong Black woman” trope often leads to chronic exhaustion that many mistake for normal adulthood challenges.
“The expectation to be a ‘good mother’ or a ‘strong Black woman’ can trigger guilt when prioritizing personal needs,” Littlejohn notes. This cultural narrative dangerously ties a woman’s worth to her productivity and availability to others.
How do you know if you’re experiencing burnout or just going through a busy phase? Look for these warning signs:
When juggling multiple responsibilities while feeling pressured to excel in every area, burnout becomes almost inevitable without intervention.
Rest isn’t merely the absence of work—it’s an active practice that allows Black women to reconnect with themselves. Through intentional rest, you gain clarity about your true desires and needs while breaking cycles of self-betrayal.
Littlejohn emphasizes that rest is a necessity, not a luxury. In a world that commodifies every moment, choosing rest becomes a radical act of resistance against systems that profit from constant productivity.
Incorporating rest doesn’t require dramatic lifestyle changes. Begin with these small but powerful practices:
The “muscle memory” of overworking presents a significant barrier to embracing rest. Many Black women have been conditioned to equate self-worth with productivity, making overwork second nature.
Just as your body has developed patterns of constant activity, you must intentionally cultivate new patterns of rest. Start small—even five minutes of stillness can begin interrupting deeply ingrained cycles of overwork.
When guilt arises during rest (and it will), recognize it as a conditioned response rather than truth. Challenge the belief that every moment must contribute to financial gain or productivity.
As more women recognize their need for rest, community support becomes essential. Leaning on others helps dismantle the isolated “strong Black woman” narrative, allowing women to share burdens and seek help without shame.
Consider forming rest accountability partnerships, where friends check in on each other’s rest practices and celebrate small wins in prioritizing self-care.
Rest isn’t just a break from work—it’s a revolutionary act empowering Black women to live authentically and joyfully. By challenging societal expectations and prioritizing self-care, you reclaim your time and energy while modeling healthier patterns for future generations.
What small rest practice will you commit to today? Your wellbeing is worth the investment.
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